Our year got better and better when Nonhlanhla Nxele bravely took vulnerability and turned it into strength and legacy — when she stopped dressing the pain of losing a loved one. From her daily demands as a business owner, she just could not sit by and watch grief consume her. She sat down and said: I need help, and I am going to help myself by healing others. She courageously wrote a beautiful memoir, speaking to the hearts of all who have lost their loved ones. “Grief does not respect titles. This book is a lamp for the dark places of the journey.”

This is the story of a transformation that proves the #LegacyInPrint movement is about more than money—it's about the deep, authentic wisdom that outlives wealth.

 

From CFP® to the Crisis of the Broken Plan

Nonhlanhla Nxele is a nationally recognized CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER® (CFP®), the founder of Esteemed Financial Solutions, and a leader committed to helping families secure their futures. She is celebrated for her professional excellence, having been the first Black woman to win the FPI ‘It Starts With Me’ Award.

Yet, when her husband Msweli passed, she faced the cruel irony of her own advice. Despite her professional title and planning, she was left with a "broken financial plan". As she notes in her book, "I sat at my kitchen table with documents scattered around me... and I realised that financial knowledge was no longer my career; it was my survival kit".

Nonhlanhla realized that God had allowed her to walk this difficult path so she could understand—deeply and personally—what it truly means to be left without a legacy. Her pain became her purpose: to authentically connect with and empower others through lived experience. The result was the rise of the WidowPreneur Rising movement.

 

The Book That Writes You Back

The Unwanted Title: Widow is a profound act of courage published through Help My World Publishing. It is a memoir of loss, resilience, and rediscovery. The book’s structure reflects the journey itself:

• Healing through Community: Nonhlanhla created A Space to Breathe (YouTube and TikTok), a virtual community where widows gather weekly to share stories and comfort.

• Confronting Reality: She speaks openly about the need to set professional composure aside to process "anger and shock" and tackle the "face-to-face fights" with institutional bureaucracy and family politics that follow a loss.

• The Widow’s Wealth Guide: Nonhlanhla turns her CFP® expertise into a roadmap for others, advising women not to rush major decisions and guiding them through the legal maze of inheritance, wills, and pension funds.

The title she now wears proudly—WidowPreneur—is a badge of honor, symbolizing a woman capable of building again, not just surviving.

Legacy Beyond Material Wealth

Nonhlanhla’s story redefines what it means to leave a legacy, aligning perfectly with the Help My World Publishing ethos.

When her husband passed, he didn't leave the financial legacy they had dreamed of. What he did leave was something far more valuable: meaningful friendships and relationships. She is now seeing a return on this human investment, with old connections helping her business flourish.

“The grave is silent, but his legacy speaks volumes through the lives he touched... life is not about what material possessions you leave behind when you die, but about what you choose to build, nurture, and cultivate while you are still alive.”

Nonhlanhla Nxele has proven that Leadership lives longest when it’s written. By publishing her painful truth, she created a lasting piece of cultural equity that will guide families for generations.

Ready to transform your experience into a lasting legacy? Learn more about the Legacy Author Series at Help My World Publishing.